Thursday, November 12, 2009

Stigma

The stigma that impacts sex industry workers, also impacts the patrons. In some cases, like workers, clients are also criminalized. This could include anything from having their license plates recorded for parking at a sex industry venue to being arrested for trying to purchase sex.

Customers are also stereotyped. WE all know that you are just an average person, like the rest of us. But some members of society spread propaganda accusing sex industry patrons of being rapists.

Others are stereotyped as unattractive or unable to find acceptance from anyone but a sex industry worker. This prejudice depends upon the assumption that sex industry workers are lowly individuals to begin with.

You may respond to this stigma in different ways. One way is to keep your activities a private matter so that others in your life will not judge you. In this case, hiding it is just a practical choice.

But if you feel ashamed of paying for adult entertainment, you need to work through this rationally. There is no reason to be ashamed of yourself, unless what you are doing is hurting someone. Under ideal circumstances, there is an exchange of money for an expected outcome. As long as both parties agree to the exchange (without coercion or dishonesty), there has been no harm done.

If the harm is that your significant other would be devastated to find out what you are doing, then you need to examine this for yourself. Why are you seeking services elsewhere? Is it because you are afraid to ask your partner to try something you really like? Is it because you and your partner no longer engage in sexual activities together?

Whatever your reasons, this is a personal decision for you. The adult entertainer is not tempting you – you are tempted. Don’t blame the worker for your inability to be comfortable with what you are doing.

Furthermore, don’t feel the need to explain yourself to entertainers. To us, you are a valued customer. We’re just happy you’re patronizing our businesses.

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